B'nai Mitzvah Preparation

Mazal Tov on your child's upcoming Bar/Bat Mitzvah!. The entire congregation shares in your joy as you and your child prepare for this meaningful event.

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Preparation


The beginning of your child's bar or bat mitzvah training begins in Hebrew School. Students in grades 4 through 6 focus on Shabbat prayers and blessings in their mid-week Hebrew classes. If they practice and master the prayers at each grade level, they will be well-prepared. This is also a great time to join the Junior Choir, if you haven't already. Singing in the choir is a great way to reinforce what is learned in the classroom.

Please visit our Prayer Center and Trope Tutorial to help your child along the way.


Meet with Clergy & Teachers 

• Nine months before the Bar/Bat Mitzvah, parents will be called to set up a time to meet with Cantor Green for an “intake meeting.” At this meeting, Cantor Green will get to know your family a little better and explain all that is involved in the process leading up to the bar/bat mitzvah.

  • Students should also choose a community service project that they will take part in prior to their bar/bat mitzvah date. For mitzvah project ideas, visit www.mitzvahbowl.com 

• Parents will choose a day and time to bring their child to a four-month class with Melanie Biefel. There are several days and times to choose from. For a complete listing, contact the Beth Or office. In this class, students will work with a teacher to gain fluency in prayers as well as to learn their Haftarah and Haftarah blessings.

• During this four month period, students and parents will meet with Rabbi Marx to prepare their D’var Torah (Torah speech/sermon) and with Rabbi Gerber to prepare their Haftarah speech and discuss their mitzvah project. If you need help selecting a Mitzvah project, visit The Mitzvah Bowl website for ideas.

• After the four month class has been completed, students will attend approximately ten sessions with Cantor Green to learn their Torah portion. These ten sessions include rehearsals on the bima and practicing reading from the Torah scrolls. You can sign up for these classes on-line.



Click on the link below to download manual designed to answer many of the questions you may have concerning preparations for this special day. You will find valuable information ranging from what knowledge your child is expected to master to sample wording for invitations! Please take the time to read this booklet carefully and bookmark it for future reference.

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Handbook for parents.

More Information


  • Students must go to 6 Friday night and 6 Saturday morning Shabbat services at Beth Or. Services at other congregations do not meet this requirement.
  • Students who transfer from another community will be accepted as candidates for the celebration of Bar/Bat Mitzvah provided they meet our educational requirements. It is the policy at Beth Or, as voted on by the Board of Trustees of the temple, that all students continue in our religious school through Confirmation at the end of 10th grade.

If you are interested in renting the Rosenfeld Social Hall for your party, please visit our Facilities page on the Beth Or website.

If you are interested in ordering a Because We Care basket, please visit their website